Positivism can reverse negativity
Change is all around us. One instant in time, the blink of an eye and you can end up in a negative or positive situation. No two people see it the same. Some are glass half full and some half empty.
If something bad happens and you’re sad, angry, grief-stricken, annoyed, frustrated, hurt or a multitude of emotions. It’s a negative experience but what if you turned it positive?
There’s the saying you can’t get any further down so you must go up.
It’s not always easy to find a positive thing but it’s best for your emotional wellbeing if you at least try. My mum always says, “There’s always someone worse off.” It’s an apt saying. You have nothing to complain about when you compare yourself to the heartache others face.
Look at inspirational people like Turia Pitt. She looks to the positive to get through something most of us could barely imagine. She has her wonderful bubbles of happiness and humour, and she’s thriving. Yes, she has more guts and determination than most of us would be able to summon, but if she wasn’t positive she’d never get through it (oh and congrats to her and Michael on expecting their first child).
How do you find a positive in a negative?
Let’s give a simple example. You’re a guy and you lost your wallet (no I’m not talking about you Blake). It’s annoying and it makes you angry. You must cancel all your cards and then wait for new ones. You worry about identity theft and you freak out a little about people sifting through your treasured family photos.
Where’s the positive? You can start laughing because if anyone tries to use the credit card they’ll be denied as you just maxed it out (karma). What if you hated the wallet and your coins always fell out of it? You now have an excuse to go buy a new one. Let’s go one step further. That cute girl you’ve been passing on the street, finds your wallet, hands it back and your hands brush at the touch. Electricity and sparks fly. You lock eyes and a happy ever after love affair begins (okay I admit the romance writer in me got carried away with that scenario, but you get the point).
Think up your own positives to negatives
Negative: Stub your toe (ouch!)
Positive: Swear (that always makes you feel better) look what you kicked your toe on. That old diamond ring you had lost.
Negative: Get sick with the flu.
Positive: You’re not the only one and now’s your chance to recover in bed and be pampered by the family.
Negative: Prang your car.
Positive: No one is hurt and it’s just a car.
Negative: It’s raining and you wanted sunshine.
Positive: It’s been dry and the plants need it (and may prevent bush fires this season). They are doing a happy rain dance. I’d probably curl up with a good book.
Negative: The dog ate your homework.
Positive: Well haven’t we all wanted to use that excuse?
Negative: Your flight was cancelled.
Positive: They found a fault in the plane and you’re are very lucky it never took off (because it could have crashed).
It’s not always easy. Somethings are just too sad (like death and grief). Just try these strategies to get through it and find the more positive aspects of your life.
My own negative thought today is I haven’t had time to blog and keep up with my 365 Days of Gratitude. The positive thought out of that is; the amount of writing work I am embarking on now, is the reason I’ve had no time to blog. Yay me!
365 Days of Gratitude
I’ve missed from Day 191 to today, which is Day 248. I have plenty of gratitude during those 57 days. I have bucket loads of gratitude. Some crappy things have happened (two broken-down cars, an almost fried laptop (yep this very one), but there’s been so many more wonderful moments they outweigh the negative).
- Visits with the grandkids
- A free holiday in Noosa
- Enjoying a writing festival and networking with other creatives (Sunshine Coast International Readers and Writers Festival)
- Meeting writing goals
- A friend recovering from a scary illness
- A visit from my son (he lives the furthest away from us)
- Coming second in a footy tipping comp (thanks Roosters)
- Reading some wonderful books
- My big dog’s lapdog moments
- Warmer weather
- More The Zanzibar Moon sales
- Getting three-quarters of the way through my next manuscript
What are your positives or moments of gratitude?
Another 25 days of 365 Days of Gratitude – June 15th – July 9th
Keeping this blog up-to-date when so many things are going on in my life (particularly writing) has put me behind 25 days. In those 25 days I’ve had loads more than 25 things to be grateful for. I’m more than grateful for the 24th June (my book launch) and birthday. Of course it’s a day I will never forget and one I am humbly appreciative of. You can read about it at an earlier post Top 10 Book Launch Moments.
Rather than going through every one of the 25 days I’ll just list the wonderful things I am grateful for during that time (and there’s probably plenty more). They are:
- The Zanzibar Moon reviews so far (all positive and definitely a boost to my writer’s self-worth)
- The Book Launch being a huge success and selling out of books
- My family for gifting me the framed The Zanzibar Moon author poster (unexpected and perfect). My brother organised that and Mum picked the ideal beachy frame. Plus, my brother (and his business partner Viki) also printed my bookmarks so I could give them out as gifts to readers.
- My health – with viruses and flues going around I’ve kept my health. We should never take our health for granted.
- Awesome friends who’ve been so supportive of The Zanzibar Moon, particularly those reposting on social media, selling at their businesses and spreading the word.
- Darci’s book-themed The Zanzibar Moon cup cakes for my book launch.
- Beautiful friends who went over the top at the book launch by bringing me gifts, bottles of champagne, words of congratulations and flowers. You made my day that much more special. Thank you.
- My best friends for organising the venue and bringing so much food (there were enough leftovers to feed a footy club).
- Meeting the Palm Beach Erotic Book Club women, by chance, at Currumbin RSL. I did my first public reading from The Zanzibar Moon. Serendipity at its best made me feel very blessed.
- My husband and son, though stunned by my success, not really surprised. The love they give me makes me grateful and happy. I feel cherished.
- A near full moon last night. It will be a full moon tonight (yes I will be looking up).
- Starting the prequel ‘Kendwa’s Secret’ and the muse is with me.
- Having author connections that fulfill my needs as a writer, with collaboration, networking, advice, inspiration, encouragement – my tribe!
- Starting another exciting writing project.
- My dog snuggling on my lap now that the winter chill has set in (okay she even does that in summer, but it’s nice).
- Gloriously sunny winter days.
- Readers. Thank you all for giving The Zanzibar Moon and this début author a go.