When things are shit don’t get too shitty.
I know, right! It’s not like me to use profanities. I barely have my male characters uttering any. Okay, ‘shit’ isn’t as bad as ‘f#@!!’ and others but there are times a little swearing is necessary. Hell yeah!
When you go through tough days you may need to let off some steam. Yell it, cry if you need to, but somehow get that bottled up frustration out. In doing so, don’t get so shitty you lose sight of getting past the moment. Temper tantrums are only for two-year-olds who lost their dummy.
As my youngest son said (only last night). “You have to weather some storms before you can appreciate the sunshine.” Wow! Perhaps he has a career in philosophy, I think as I tap my lips. My insightful son is full of gems like that.
I’m not one to complain, even when life isn’t sunshine and butterflies. Positivity brings positive things (well eventually anyway. Hang in there). Everything happens for a reason, be it a lesson, a change of direction, not your time yet, bigger better things; and you usually don’t know the reasoning until later. It may seem that your problems are never-ending but they rarely are.
“There’s always light after the darkness,” as my enlightened friend Kerry the Healer says.
In my case, our families (so-called) bad luck began soon after my father in law passed away. It felt like this wonderful, kind, generous, compassionate man’s spirit took with it our family joy. Being sad seemed to send us curve balls we weren’t willing to catch; stolen property, ill-health, lack of work, and more; all seemed to smash our resilience.
But here’s the thing. We talked, swore, cried and then quickly turned back to a positive mind frame, always convincing ourselves something wonderful was on our horizon. Suddenly, things turned again. Good news appeared from nowhere and I appreciated the sunshine and butterflies once again.
Things that got our happy groove back:
- Appreciate what you do have, not what you don’t
- See as many sunrises, sunsets and moonrises as you can (even a blood moon if you wake early enough)
- Swear if it helps (but not in front of children or the elderly)
- Cry (a phone call to Mum can do that)
- Smell nature, walk in it, appreciate the beauty
- Turn negative thoughts to positive ones (e.g. Cars are stolen to change your course)
- Turn the music up loud (I love Spotify) and dance
- Keep a journal (if you like writing. This would not work for my husband)
- Slow down, breath deeply and exercise (gently if necessary)
- Don’t verbalise every worry (keep your circle of confiders close)
- Talk upbeat alternatives through with your partner
- Smile (it’s contagious)
Here are some positive images to make you feel good: