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When things are shit don’t get too shitty.


When things are shit don’t get too shitty.

I know, right! It’s not like me to use profanities. I barely have my male characters uttering any. Okay, ‘shit’ isn’t as bad as ‘f#@!!’ and others but there are times a little swearing is necessary. Hell yeah!

When you go through tough days you may need to let off some steam. Yell it, cry if you need to, but somehow get that bottled up frustration out. In doing so, don’t get so shitty you lose sight of getting past the moment. Temper tantrums are only for two-year-olds who lost their dummy.

As my youngest son said (only last night). “You have to weather some storms before you can appreciate the sunshine.” Wow! Perhaps he has a career in philosophy, I think as I tap my lips. My insightful son is full of gems like that.

I’m not one to complain, even when life isn’t sunshine and butterflies. Positivity brings positive things (well eventually anyway. Hang in there). Everything happens for a reason, be it a lesson, a change of direction, not your time yet, bigger better things; and you usually don’t know the reasoning until later. It may seem that your problems are never-ending but they rarely are.

“There’s always light after the darkness,” as my enlightened friend Kerry the Healer says.

In my case, our families (so-called) bad luck began soon after my father in law passed away. It felt like this wonderful, kind, generous, compassionate man’s spirit took with it our family joy. Being sad seemed to send us curve balls we weren’t willing to catch; stolen property, ill-health, lack of work, and more; all seemed to smash our resilience.

But here’s the thing. We talked, swore, cried and then quickly turned back to a positive mind frame, always convincing ourselves something wonderful was on our horizon. Suddenly, things turned again. Good news appeared from nowhere and I appreciated the sunshine and butterflies once again.

Things that got our happy groove back:

  • Appreciate what you do have, not what you don’t
  • See as many sunrises, sunsets and moonrises as you can (even a blood moon if you wake early enough)
  • Swear if it helps (but not in front of children or the elderly)
  • Cry (a phone call to Mum can do that)
  • Smell nature, walk in it, appreciate the beauty
  • Turn negative thoughts to positive ones (e.g. Cars are stolen to change your course)
  • Turn the music up loud (I love Spotify) and dance
  • Keep a journal (if you like writing. This would not work for my husband)
  • Slow down, breath deeply and exercise (gently if necessary)
  • Don’t verbalise every worry (keep your circle of confiders close)
  • Talk upbeat alternatives through with your partner
  • Smile (it’s contagious)

Here are some positive images to make you feel good:

Facing north, early morning, Kirra Beach, Surfers Paradise in the distance.
Sunrise over the Pacific Ocean at Kirra Point, Queensland, Australia.
Sunrise over the Pacific Ocean at Kirra Point, Queensland, Australia.
Blood Moon 27th July 2018, from Elanora Qld (iPhone not camera is why the quality is bad).
Two nights after the Blood Moon, moon setting 91% full.
Two nights after the Blood Moon, moon setting 91% full.
Close up of moon setting 91% full, west of Elanora, Qld.
Close up of the moon setting 91% full, west of Elanora, Qld.

 

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Coming in June 2017 ‘The Zanzibar Moon’


Coming in 2017 ‘The Zanzibar Moon’.

The Zanzibar Moon is in production now.

The Zanzibar Moon novel by Donna Munro

Blurb:

A sexy man in a loincloth doesn’t end Alkina’s marriage but when her husband’s infidelity does, Ali’s life takes on a jungle twist.

To rebuild her life she decides to volunteer in Africa.

“Maybe I’ll find Tarzan,” she says as she leaves Australia.

Then one day on a Zanzibar beach a spellbinding man walks past with a cheetah attached to a lead. This tantalizing encounter changes Ali’s life in ways she’d never imagine.

Kendwa, the Tarzan of her dreams, comes with complications; a three-year-old son and a mysterious job. Then there’s also a handsome doctor, a neighbor who wants more than friendship and a husband who can’t make up his mind.

But the much younger Kendwa provides euphoric sex, evocative conversations and a world that Ali never knew existed. How can she resist him, but will his past come back to haunt him?

When a medical emergency sends her racing home she re-discovers her family bond, uncovers a new betrayal and finds an inner strength from her time with Kendwa in exotic Zanzibar and the wilds of Africa.

But on her return to the island will the grief of what she finds overwhelm her?