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When things are shit don’t get too shitty.

When things are shit don’t get too shitty.

I know, right! It’s not like me to use profanities. I barely have my male characters uttering any. Okay, ‘shit’ isn’t as bad as ‘f#@!!’ and others but there are times a little swearing is necessary. Hell yeah!

When you go through tough days you may need to let off some steam. Yell it, cry if you need to, but somehow get that bottled up frustration out. In doing so, don’t get so shitty you lose sight of getting past the moment. Temper tantrums are only for two-year-olds who lost their dummy.

As my youngest son said (only last night). “You have to weather some storms before you can appreciate the sunshine.” Wow! Perhaps he has a career in philosophy, I think as I tap my lips. My insightful son is full of gems like that.

I’m not one to complain, even when life isn’t sunshine and butterflies. Positivity brings positive things (well eventually anyway. Hang in there). Everything happens for a reason, be it a lesson, a change of direction, not your time yet, bigger better things; and you usually don’t know the reasoning until later. It may seem that your problems are never-ending but they rarely are.

“There’s always light after the darkness,” as my enlightened friend Kerry the Healer says.

In my case, our families (so-called) bad luck began soon after my father in law passed away. It felt like this wonderful, kind, generous, compassionate man’s spirit took with it our family joy. Being sad seemed to send us curve balls we weren’t willing to catch; stolen property, ill-health, lack of work, and more; all seemed to smash our resilience.

But here’s the thing. We talked, swore, cried and then quickly turned back to a positive mind frame, always convincing ourselves something wonderful was on our horizon. Suddenly, things turned again. Good news appeared from nowhere and I appreciated the sunshine and butterflies once again.

Things that got our happy groove back:

  • Appreciate what you do have, not what you don’t
  • See as many sunrises, sunsets and moonrises as you can (even a blood moon if you wake early enough)
  • Swear if it helps (but not in front of children or the elderly)
  • Cry (a phone call to Mum can do that)
  • Smell nature, walk in it, appreciate the beauty
  • Turn negative thoughts to positive ones (e.g. Cars are stolen to change your course)
  • Turn the music up loud (I love Spotify) and dance
  • Keep a journal (if you like writing. This would not work for my husband)
  • Slow down, breath deeply and exercise (gently if necessary)
  • Don’t verbalise every worry (keep your circle of confiders close)
  • Talk upbeat alternatives through with your partner
  • Smile (it’s contagious)

Here are some positive images to make you feel good:

Facing north, early morning, Kirra Beach, Surfers Paradise in the distance.
Sunrise over the Pacific Ocean at Kirra Point, Queensland, Australia.
Sunrise over the Pacific Ocean at Kirra Point, Queensland, Australia.
Blood Moon 27th July 2018, from Elanora Qld (iPhone not camera is why the quality is bad).
Two nights after the Blood Moon, moon setting 91% full.
Two nights after the Blood Moon, moon setting 91% full.
Close up of moon setting 91% full, west of Elanora, Qld.
Close up of the moon setting 91% full, west of Elanora, Qld.


Posted in Family life, Happiness, Publishing, Writers, Writing tips

365 Days of Gratitude and Writing

Every day of 2017 I’m hoping to share with your my gratitude and writing.

I believe that my happiness stems from a positive attitude (and possibly a little bit of luck, my mother is the eternal optimist). Even in adversity, if we look to something in our life that we are grateful for we can move forward, if not immediately, but eventually. My mum always taught me ‘there’s always someone worse off’, rather than ‘there’s always someone better off’. It’s a nicer way to feel about the ups and downs of life.


I’ve missed the first nine days. Instead I begin with the first ten of my 365 days of gratitude and writing. I’m grateful for/that:

  1. My Uncle Ken will be okay after a nasty fall on New Year’s Eve, because I love his warm bear hugs.
  2. A happy, healthy, growing family including Larabella and Kru, because of tiny arms for hugs, sweet button lips for kisses and smiles that melt your heart.
  3. My husband, Bevil’s unconditional love (through all my crazy writing episodes), because he is my best friend.
  4. Mahli and her eagerness to meet me at the door (even though she scratches me), because there is nothing like the uncomplicated loyalty and companionship of a dog.
  5. The fragrant freshness of rain on mown grass, because it reminds me of so many wonderful hot summer days.
  6. The last Lindt chocolate in the box is white chocolate, because it’s a favourite treat that melts in your mouth.
  7. The anticipation of a year of growth and change, because we can manifest our dreams into reality.
  8. A wonderful friendship with a fellow author and writing mentor, because sometimes writing can be lonely.
  9. I have a fulfilling job that I enjoy, because it gives me creativity, usefulness and security.
  10. That my publishing journey has begun again, because I’ve backed my ability and taken those first steps.

What are you grateful for?

Maybe you’d like to share your own 365 days of gratitude. It can be as small as, sun shining on your laundry so it finally dries, or it can be as big as, learning how to walk after an accident that took your mobility. Tell me in the comments. I’d love to hear from you.

If you don’t know how to go about being more grateful here’s a meditation and affirmation video from Fresh Affirmations, enjoy: